One Deadly Technique, the Best Pickup Artists Use
The absolute best pickup artists love to use this deadly technique and we encourage you to use it in your daygame approaches as much as possible. You will definitely see a massive difference in your game when you begin to utilize these skills. Most naturals use this at their will and you can learn to implement this one approach at a time.
Now, a huge temptation among beginners is to talk incessantly without leaving much pauses in the interaction at all. They only indicate to a girl that she can speak by asking her a direct question. This ultimately comes from a limiting belief that if you stop talking, the girl will immediately lose interest and simply leave. Intermediate players are normally showing more confidence, but they generally tend to over enjoy delivering conversational value too much and this often tends to work against themselves. Such guys often forget to shut up and let the girl speak and invest. You must give the girl space to talk and one deadly technique the best pickup artists use is called “the vacuum”. The idea here is simple: You simply stop talking and look expectantly into the girls eyes.
Remember, you’re now close to the hook point and the girl wants to talk to you. Thus, as she comes close to the end of her sentence, you just stay quiet. Nod your head, make a listening noise, and look expectantly like you are waiting for her to continue. Sometimes there’ll be a little tension because you are bending the normal rules of turn-taking in a conversation. That’s ok, because part of attraction is showing the girl, you are more comfortable with tension that she is, and that you are not always going to play by the typical rules of social standards.
The best pickup artists know that this is the point where the girl will pick up the ball and continue investing more and more. Let her do this. This is precisely what you want – her working, slightly off-balance, and giving you more information about herself. Encourage her with nods of approval, slight smiles and listening noises that indicate you’re engaged and interested in what she has to say. Reward this good behavior.
Sometimes she won’t pick up the ball so you have a long awkward silence. Your calibration will often tell you what to do as you get better at mimicking the best pickup artists.
- Your first option is to: Pick up the ball where it was dropped. Take your turn in the conversation. I use this as the last resort because it means the “vacuum” is just a partial success and you’re simply playing into her frame. This means she’s controlling the interaction.
- The other option, which is slightly better is for you to continue by saying something encouraging like “please, continue” or “yes, I’m listening.” It’s just a stronger invitation for her to keep talking.
- The absolute best resort the best pickup artists employ as an ultimate weapon is the “knowing smirk”. You’re essentially telling her that you know you’re deliberately leaving pauses. You then use this to build sexual tension by looking into her eyes, smirking warmly so the sub-communication is now the focus. If she acts a little self-conscious, you’ve succeeded.
Congratulations, you are now primed to use these deadly techniques to create sexual tension and avoid the typical beginner and intermediate mistakes.