These 5 Strange Loopholes Are Used by the Best Pickup Artists
It’s important to realize that for you to become the best pickup artist you can be you must avoid being The Interviewer or The Hairdresser. You’re likey naturally jumping from one topic to another if you’re still learning how to push the conversation along it’s destined path. One way you can stop jumping around is to practice teasing out further information from a girl so she expands a topic, offering more of her thoughts. The easiest way to do this is to have quite genuine interest in the topic and her real opinions on it. Keep it as authentic as possible.
If you don’t have genuine interest than you need to stop and diagnose why. Self-diagnosing problems in your game is the most crucial step in achieving great progress.
The best pickup artists diagnose their problems consistently and your possibilities are most likely:
- You’re too outcome-dependent. There’s a particular target in your head like (“Get her number,” “Get 10+ notches,” “Do 30+ sets today”) that’s pulling you into the future and taking your full enjoyment of the present moment. When your mind is focused on the goal, her contribution to the conversation is just an irritation, a necessary running down of the clock until you have gone through the steps to “get the number”. Unsurprisingly, this makes your conversation inauthentic and she senses you’re just going through the motions. You’re not making her feel like you’re both in the moment, a prerequisite due to her child-like sensibilities.
- You are opening women you aren’t really interested in. In the beginning of your daygame career before you become the best pickup artist the world has ever seen, this is fine. You’re just racking up the number of approaching and practicing the basics of approaching women and honing the model until it’s become second nature. The best pickup daygamers have gone through this and you must also.
- During “beast mode” you’ll also be opening women on the borderline of what you like. So if you find yourself lacking intent and conviction with a girl, you’ve probably been too much in your head and failed to establish a strong enough connection with your sexual intent. Reconnect. Visualize her naked and ask yourself how much do you really want to her be riding you naked and bouncing up and down your cock. If your answer is “meh”, eject and save your energy for women who can hold your interest better. Remember that the best pickup artists understand their limits and resources.
- You don’t actually like women very much. This might be because you’re misogynystic. There is a strong trend for guys to hate on women because they’re getting into The Game and coming from a place of pain. This is often because of awful experiences with nasty women. Some are recovering Nice guys who are experimenting with swinging the pendulum too far the opposite way into the “complete asshole” territory.
- When you first tear women down from a pedestal, it becomes tempting to smash them into the ground and destroy their inner belief system. The best pick up coaches will tell you that this stage is inevitable and you should try to make this as short as possible. Ultimately you want to come out of this stage as soon as possible and emerge with a healthy acceptance of female nature. If you find yourself having total disrespect for a woman’s conversation and find enduring it a chore, then you just need to remind yourself why you look women in the first place. Visualize all those things you like about femininity.